Has our mid-year check given you more butterflies?
Has it given you more stress, or anxiety about your goals?
Or has it helped to know that you aren’t alone, and the best laid plans do go awry… we can simply make a new agreement with ourselves and move on, move better.
Or maybe you’ve been one who has read different conversations here, and thought to yourself, “This is so cool, I think I’ve gotten a lot more done than I first thought!” (And by the way, if you haven’t tried it yet, that is precisely the magic of Rapid Fire Learning.)
If any of this sounds familiar, you’re probably up in arms, deep in the throes of the Battle of the Learner and Over-Achiever. At ease! (Please?) Pull up a chair, and let’s take a break.
In the Learner’s Camp
We talk about learning with a lot of warm and fuzzies here at Joyful Jubilant Learning, yet truth is, ‘Ike loa [the Hawaiian, MWA value of lifelong learning] if you have it, tends to be about relentless learning which just doesn’t let us off the hook at times —times we should honestly just chill.
If it makes you feel any better, we who value ‘Ike loa just can’t help ourselves. Believe me, I know, for I have a severe case of this affliction.
“You love to learn. The subject matter that interests you most will be determined by your other themes and experiences, but whatever the subject, you will always be drawn to the process of learning. The process, more than the content or the result, is especially exciting for you. You are energized by the steady and deliberate journey from ignorance to competence. The thrill of the first few facts, the early efforts to recite or practice what you have learned, the growing confidence of a skill mastered - this is the process that excites you.”
—Gallup with me: An Appreciation for Learning
In the Achiever’s Camp
Achievers can’t help themselves either. It's a Kūlia i ka nu‘u kind of thing [the Hawaiian, MWA value of achievement and excellence.]
“Achiever describes a constant need for achievement. You feel as if every day starts at zero. By the end of the day you must achieve something tangible in order to feel good about yourself. And by ‘every day’ you mean every single day – workdays, weekends, vacations. No matter now much you may feel you deserve a day of rest, if the day passes without some form of achievement, no matter how small, you feel dissatisfied. You have an internal fire burning inside you… Your relentless need for achievement might not be logical. It might not even be focused. But it will always be with you.”
—StrengthsFinder 2.0 by Tom Rath
As Yoda might say, “The force is with you.”
As everyone else in your family might say, well, all they do now is shake their heads in recognition and groan. Not going to the beach this weekend, huh.
And back in the General’s tent, there’s a Sandbox
Here’s something I have learned about learning: A double-whammy tip I want to share with you in winning this Battle of the Learner and Over-Achiever —who as you’ve surmised, are actually waging the same battle in the War of Annual Goal-Setting. Learning and achieving is this partnership of what fascinates you (learning, or ‘Ike loa) and what drives you (achievement, or Kūlia i ka nu‘u).
At ease, don’t reach for that rifle again! You haven’t heard the double whammy tip yet!
Both are reasonable, and completely useful. As Dwayne coached us, they help us “engage around specifics.” (Such a great phrase Dwayne; a keeper.) They also teach us the flexibility that Rick wrote about, and I am quite sure that both Karen and Kirsten would agree these tips help us with that whole kindness-to-self effort we all found so appealing.
“Less is More” is wisdom we all have heard often, but chances are we need to “get real” and put it into practice —it’s the stuff about goals being realistic. Some people are really good at this, and you might be too, however if you’re even a tiny bit like me, your left brain keeps screaming “Less is More!” hysterically, but your right brain has somehow gone deaf and continues to pile on with the reckless abandon of “creative interpretation.”
Not to mention the fact that the world conspires these days: Remember this? “[Daniel] Pink says we have entered the Conceptual Age, where “right-brainers will rule the future.”
I said to leave those rifles alone!
This is where “Replace, Don’t Add” can be a fabulous mantra. Go ahead and be right-brained or whole-minded, but build yourself a sandbox to play in:

A sandbox only holds so many toys before they start to get in the way of your castle-building. The sand molds you wanted to do your final flourishes with end up getting buried under one of your massive towers —unless you’d left those sand molds out of the box and on the lawn until you needed them. Now you can step out of the sand box for a moment, trot over to get them, and leave behind the buckets, picks and shovels you’d been using.
Replace is so much smarter.
These Battle Lines are hereby Drawn
So guess what? I’m letting all of us off the hook and calling a truce! No cross-fire from the Learners’ or Achievers’ bunkers: We’re all going to play in the General’s sandbox (---he’s out somewhere on reconnaissance dying to know about our July Theme.)
In the spirit of this “Less is More” coaching, there will be no more June postings here at Joyful Jubilant Learning. Let’s chill. (Hear those sighs of relief? They’re from our JJL Advisory Board. Told you; you’re not alone.)
If you do have some time, participate in Rapid Fire Learning or another conversation already in progress here. Otherwise, I shall expect that you are finishing up with your own mid-year assessment, and thinking about that strategy to replace a January-June target with something better that will make these next months from July through December totally joyful for the learner in you.
We are the Ho‘ohana Community, and we’re in this together, Kākou.
See you back here on Wednesday, July 1 for a brand new theme which will help renew your energies – promise!
Plus the General will be back in his tent, and we’ve got to clear out.
~ Rosa Say ...your JJL managing editor, and learning with you joyfully.
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This post is a contribution to our learning theme for June 2009: Our Learner’s Progress
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